Couples
I have known a lot of 'couples' in the last three years. "Live-in" couples, "Eat-in-one-plate" couples, "You-dare-touch-me" couples, "You-can't-stay-overnight" couples, "Kuch-bhi-chalta-hai" couples, "Long-distance" couples, "Time-pass" couples, "Use-and-throw" couples.. "We-are-oblivious-to-the-existence-of-other-humans" couples.. "We-both-have-five ex'es" couples .. etc.. etc.. Many don't know where their relationship is heading; hell some don't even know whether they are in their fourth or eighth relationship (that is.. counting only ones after the new year' eve). On the other hand, there are these somewhat "genuine" types. They have been together thro' thick and thin for 7, 14 or 21 years (all multiples of 7), and are still going steady.
Sooner or later fate will decide such relationships. Well, options are not too many. Either they are heading towards wedlock or go their seperate ways, i.e., to their next bf/gf (Errrr... I told you before... there are never more than "2" choices... NEVER EVER ;-) ).
I have been a silent observer of these different types of people over time, and I have seen that most public in my friends group fall under this pattern --- has been a ex- or a current- or a would be- gf/bf of someone else in the same group (No... no same-sex partners that I know of). Someone's ex would have been my school-mate or someone is seeing my school-mate's ex or hitherto unknown cousin of best buddy etc.., and since desi gossip machines are always working overtime, hook-up and break-up news spread faster than California forest fires. Also, they happen at such speeds that it is almost impossible to keep one-self updated with the current flings of friends, even if the time frame is just a week.
Weekend party:
Me: "Hey! How are you? Where is Anchal/Bindu/Chitra/.....Who-ever-I-last-saw-you-with...?"
He: "Fine man. Have you met Karishma/Lakshmi/Meera... the-arm-candy-you-see-now-u dumbo...yet?"
Me: "Oops! Sorry I have'nt, (turning her way) Nice to meet you"
Then I go to the group of friends and I am informed of the news of "his" breakup with his ex, and also about the current betting scene as to how long these two would now last. Bets range anywhere between 18 seconds to 18 months. Also, group discusses other hook-up and break-up news of friends, friends of friends, friends of friends of friends... and then we finish our discussion after we reach Brad and Angelina thorugh our friends' circle (Wait.. How did we get to them.. Err.. Uh.. Who cares).
Given such a scenario, I always wonder what is on with the minds of most people. They all seem to be in a relationship for the heck of it, and "Being loved" is more important than "Loving". When it is fresh, they eat in the same plate, check each other's email, do each other's chores.., only to find themselves in a mess after the relationship ends and spooning enough for others to gossip about. No worries here, coz someone will be soon found to replace the one lost! It is hard to see that old values are being lost sooner than we realize and we are getting more "modern" or "western" and have somehow gotten the "kuch-bhi-chalta-hai" attitude.
And in this world, I sit here, lost and confused, searching for Sati Savitri in a "Girls-booze-free-all night" pub :(
Sooner or later fate will decide such relationships. Well, options are not too many. Either they are heading towards wedlock or go their seperate ways, i.e., to their next bf/gf (Errrr... I told you before... there are never more than "2" choices... NEVER EVER ;-) ).
I have been a silent observer of these different types of people over time, and I have seen that most public in my friends group fall under this pattern --- has been a ex- or a current- or a would be- gf/bf of someone else in the same group (No... no same-sex partners that I know of). Someone's ex would have been my school-mate or someone is seeing my school-mate's ex or hitherto unknown cousin of best buddy etc.., and since desi gossip machines are always working overtime, hook-up and break-up news spread faster than California forest fires. Also, they happen at such speeds that it is almost impossible to keep one-self updated with the current flings of friends, even if the time frame is just a week.
Weekend party:
Me: "Hey! How are you? Where is Anchal/Bindu/Chitra/.....Who-ever-I-last-saw-you-with...?"
He: "Fine man. Have you met Karishma/Lakshmi/Meera... the-arm-candy-you-see-now-u dumbo...yet?"
Me: "Oops! Sorry I have'nt, (turning her way) Nice to meet you"
Then I go to the group of friends and I am informed of the news of "his" breakup with his ex, and also about the current betting scene as to how long these two would now last. Bets range anywhere between 18 seconds to 18 months. Also, group discusses other hook-up and break-up news of friends, friends of friends, friends of friends of friends... and then we finish our discussion after we reach Brad and Angelina thorugh our friends' circle (Wait.. How did we get to them.. Err.. Uh.. Who cares).
Given such a scenario, I always wonder what is on with the minds of most people. They all seem to be in a relationship for the heck of it, and "Being loved" is more important than "Loving". When it is fresh, they eat in the same plate, check each other's email, do each other's chores.., only to find themselves in a mess after the relationship ends and spooning enough for others to gossip about. No worries here, coz someone will be soon found to replace the one lost! It is hard to see that old values are being lost sooner than we realize and we are getting more "modern" or "western" and have somehow gotten the "kuch-bhi-chalta-hai" attitude.
And in this world, I sit here, lost and confused, searching for Sati Savitri in a "Girls-booze-free-all night" pub :(
posted by Eclectic Blogger at 7:54 PM
18 Comments:
Yep
Definitely agreed with this. I have also see a couple of "kuch-bhi-chalta-hai" couples, not knowing where they are going..
Some of the break ups have ended in disasters, breaking in the ex's apartment and spoiling things. Cud remember a friend who broke up, and then broke into his house and poured vinegar into his shampoo bottle.
And some already engaged and still with another. And I laugh at the 'salaam-namaste' kind of live-in relationships.
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Interesting observation sitting at the corner of the Pub called 'world'........nobody knows where we are heading to when it comes to such relationships...ppl who mite wana be serious mite brk up 4 sm reason.. and ppl who r jus fooln arnd.. may end up with that same person for sm reason.....life is not always fair ( 'who said that' : r the lucky ones)..."yes its true"... are the others.....
anyways.. last line.. shows there is sm one desp out there ;-)
plus.. velai kidaicha udaney..neenga mattum thani thanniya???
tata
sukku
Looking for a Sati Savitri in a pub, Wah re Wah. Lemme know if u were able to find her, or find anyone.
wow.. you really do have a list of "what" couples, huh :) i wonder which category i fall in..?? my personal opinion is that long distance relationship does not work for most. i have seen many relationship that did not stand the test of distance.
it is a odd world we are living in now..
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well, this article so much reflects my own thoughts on this subject! It's apalling to see people wanting to be loved by others just for the heck of it!...There was once this quote which said "People are in love with the very concept of love"!!
definately agree with this post, ive seen pl chumma go round just coz they need a boyfrnd
seri, u were just observig eh? kinda hard ot believe, or were u also with some1?
Very interesting post! :) Hope you find your S-S soon! :)
hey...congrats on u getting a job!:)
I was laughing throughout ur post! well written! N the category of couples...hahah..so true. Even the gossip...man its usually an ice-breaker in conversations!
Lol...its not as bad as u make it sound tho..I mean ur saying girls cant drink?? n do the same things as guys?
I agree couples and relationships are more fragile today than 10 yrs ago...but I'm sure u'll find someone who shares ur interests! hope u do:)
@anck: Vinegar in shampoo? Wow.. innovative way of breaking up!
@sukku: no desp.. still soul-searching!
@thanu: sure...
@still: you wud be coming under "genuine"!?
@awakeningcoma: amam.. vera vazhi
@vikram: Enlgish version of our KKHH ;-)
@vatsan: no no, me single from birth :)
@sayesha: I have been hoping all thro...
@ego: I never said gals can't drink.. but i know for sure sati savitri does'nt ;-).. thats why.. :)
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Hi Eclectic Blogger...
So many things pop up inmy mind reading ur post...will come back with more comments ! :-D
@anck: Will chk
@iceyez: Sure!
That was funny classification of couples! And good luk for meeting sati saavitri mebbe with a vodka in her hand!
Thanks Dreamvendor!
"Girls booze free all night" pub?? Wherz thiz??
Good luck on finding Savitri *hic!*
@hikuado: shall let you know the closest pub to you, when I find out :-)
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