Monday, October 31, 2005

Iniye Deepavali Nalvaazhtukkal!

Anaivarukkum en iniye Deepavali vaazhthukkal! Ellorum pudhu thuni anindhu, bagavanai darshithu, uttrar-uravinarudan indhe deepavali thirunaalai kondadingal. Indhe naal ungal ellorukkum mikke magizhchiai tharum enru nambuvom!!

(P.S: Dont forget to watch Asin movies and post reviews on your sites!)

Wednesday, October 26, 2005

The Sandpiper!

A very good story that I received in my email today::

She was six years old when I first met her on the beach near where I live. I drive to this beach, a distance of three or four miles, whenever the worldbegins to close in on me. She was building a sandcastle or something and looked up, her eyes as blue as the sea.

"Hello," she said.

I answered with a nod, not really in the mood to bother with a small child.

"I'm building," she said. "I see that. What is it?" I asked, not really caring.

"Oh, I don't know, I just like the feel of sand.

"That sounds good, I thought, and slipped off my shoes. A sandpiper glided by.

"That's a joy," the child said.

"It's a what?"

"It's a joy. My mama says sandpipers come to bring usjoy."

The bird went gliding down the beach. Good-bye joy, I muttered to myself, hello pain, and turned to walk on. I was depressed, my life seemed completely out of balance.

"What's your name?" She wouldn't give up.

"Robert," I answered. "I'm Robert Peterson."

"Mine's Wendy... I'm six."

"Hi, Wendy." She giggled. "You're funny". In spite of my gloom, I laughed too and walked on.


Her musical giggle followed me. "Come again, Mr. P," she called. "We'll have another happy day."



After a few days of a group of unruly Boy Scouts, PTA meetings, and an ailing mother. The sun was shining one morning as I took my hands out of the dishwater. I need a sandpiper, I said to myself, gathering up mycoat. The ever-changing balm of the seashore awaited me. The breeze was chilly but I strode along, trying to recapture the serenity I needed.

"Hello, Mr. P," she said. "Do you want to play?"

"What did you have in mind?" I asked, with a twinge of annoyance.

"I don't know, you say."

"How about charades?" I asked sarcastically.

The tinkling laughter burst forth again. "I don't know what that is."

"Then let's just walk."

Looking at her, I noticed the delicate fairness of her face.

"Where do you live?" I asked.

"Over there." She pointed toward a row of summer cottages. Strange, I thought, in winter.

"Where do you go to school?"

"I don't go to school. Mommy says we're on vacation."

She chattered little girl talk as we strolled up the beach, but my mind was on other things. When I left for home, Wendy said it had been a happy day. Feeling surprisingly better, I smiled at her and agreed.

Three weeks later, I rushed to my beach in a state of near panic. I was in no mood to even greet Wendy. I thought I saw her mother on the porch and felt like demanding she keep her child at home.

"Look, if you don't mind," I said crossly when Wendy caught up with me, "I'd rather be alone today."

She seemed unusually pale and out of breath. "Why?" she asked.

I turned to her and shouted, "Because my mother died!"and thought, My God, why was I saying this to a little child?

"Oh," she said quietly, "then this is a bad day."

"Yes," I said, "and yesterday and the day beforeand--oh, go away!"

"Did it hurt?" she inquired.

"Did what hurt?" I was exasperated with her, with myself.

"When she died?"

"Of course it hurt!"

I snapped, misunderstanding, wrapped up in myself. I strode off. A month or so after that, when I next went to the beach, she wasn't there. Feeling guilty, ashamed and admitting to myself I missed her, I went up to thecottage after my walk and knocked at the door. A drawnlooking young woman with honey-colored hair opened the door.

"Hello," I said, "I'm Robert Peterson. I missed your little girl today and wondered where she was."

"Oh yes, Mr. Peterson, please come in. Wendy spoke of you so much. I'm afraid I allowed her to bother you. If she was a nuisance, please, accept my apologies."

"Not at all -- she's a delightful child." I said, suddenly realizing that I meant what I had just said.

"Wendy died last week, Mr. Peterson. She had leukemia. Maybe she didn't tell you."

Struck dumb, I groped for a chair. I had to catch my breath.

"She loved this beach so when she asked to come, we couldn't say no. She seemed so much better here and had a lot of what she called happy days. But the last few weeks, she declined rapidly..."

Her voice faltered, "She left something for you ... if only I can find it. Could you wait a moment while I look?"

I nodded stupidly, my mind racing for something to say to this lovely young woman. She handed me a smeared envelope with "MR. P" printed in bold childish letters. Inside was a drawing in bright crayon hues -- a yellow beach, a blue sea, and a brown bird.

Underneath was carefully printed: A SANDPIPER TO BRING YOU JOY.

Tears welled up in my eyes and a heart that had almost forgotten to love opened wide. I took Wendy's mother in my arms. "I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry," I muttered over and over, and we wept together. The precious little picture is framed now and hangs in my study. Six words -- one for each year of her life -- that speak to me of harmony, courage, and undemanding love. A gift from a child with sea blue eyes and hair the color of sand -- who taught me the gift of love...

Friday, October 21, 2005

Restroom Creativity - Idhu thevaiya!?

Chumma Lollu!

Husband: En manaivi romba TV parkira doctor.
Doctor: Entha alavukku??
Husband: Current cut aanalum TV-i Torch adichu paarkira doctor!!

What is the difference between Love marriage & Arranged marriage?
First one is Tharkolai..and the next one is Thittamitta kolai

Patient: Doctor vaithu vali, porukka mudiyala doctor.
Doctor: Vaithu valikirappa yaen neenga porukka poreenga????

Teacher: Can you tell me something about Raja Ram Mohan Roy?
Saradji: They were 4 best friends..!

Man: Doctor en wifekku peyi pudichirukku..
Doctor: eppadi sollureenga???
Man: munnadi kalakalannu sirichava ippo lakalakalakanu sirikkira..!

Vijayakanth: Andha TV mela case podanum..
Thondan: Ean thalaiva??
Vijayakanth: Nama katchi arambichadha Vilayattu seidhigal-la potrukkan..

Sardar Son: O God! Please make Newyork the capital of Punjab.
Sardar: Why are you praying for that?
Sardar Son: That is what I have written in my exam...

Why are Egyptian's children always confused??
Because after death, their daddy becomes the Mummy!!

Sardar1: Train kandupidichadu nallatha pochu..
Sardar2: yaen??
Sardar1: illaina thandavalam yellam veena poirukkum...!!

Wednesday, October 19, 2005

The 'Other' Language!

My native language happens to be Tamil - Many of my friends do not speak/understand the language. One of the first things that someone from another state asks (or rather makes fun of!) is why Tamilians do not know the national language? I have many a times wondered why this was the case.

(1) Is it because we love our mother tongue way too much? If so, does that mean Kannadigas, Andhrites, Malayalis or any other non-native Hindi speakers love their mother tongue any lesser?

(2) In India, there are may be 6 or 7 states where the native language happens to be Hindi - like MP, UP, HP etc... predominantly the northern belt. The north-eastern, southern and western states have languages of their own. Was it right in making the entire country adopt Hindi as the national language, just because of the 5 or 6 states?

(3) Why the fuss about the national 'language'? Do we care for the national sport - How many of us had actually seen a Hockey match on TV? Like the 'language', should not the sport be imposed on the entire country, rather forcibly? Do hockey players look down upon other sports in India!?

There are so many other 'National' things, but people dont even know they exist.

But, why, of all, a 'language' is the core issue?

Thoughts and comments, more than welcome!

Sunday, October 16, 2005

Arranged Marriages

"An arranged marriage is a marriage in which neither the bride nor the groom has any official say over the selection of their future spouses. However, in an arranged marriage, both parties give full consent to the marriage. Arranged marriages have been a successful traditional aspect of family life in many cultures for many years."

I come from a family which has a strong inclination towards arranged marriages. Coming from a very conservative background and a strict upbringing, it is generally not easy to oppose my parents on this. Though, not immediate, it will happen one day and am fully aware of it. They would love to pick the right girl for me. I am very sure that they would want the best for their son, and would also want to make sure that I suit the bills of the girl whom they pick. In all probability, the girl will be from the same sub-caste of the million (and counting!) castes in India. They would try to weed through a list of probable brides, to hand pick the one who is a jack of all trades (or closer to that!) - Looks/cooks good, talks/walks good, cultured, educated, smart and most importantly, astrologically and personally compatible with me. This has been the way all through, and my great grandparents, grand parents, and my own parents have all tied the knot this way. They did not know much about their spouse before marriage (infact, a little more than their names only!), but happily entered wedded life.

I am not sure if I would be able to do this. Knowing nothing or very little about someone, and trusting instincts to say "Yes" or "No" to a few probables, and to decide my Wife, who incidentally I am going to spend the rest of my life with, gives me the shrieks! Nevertheless, I believe that this might actually work, considering the fact that my parents, and theirs, and theirs, all lived relatively happy with each other. Added to the fact that I may never be able to find someone on my own (!), makes this a comfortable option to shed the work-load on my parents, while I relax. On the downside, this is like throwing caution to the wind and shooting arrows in the dark - you might be lucky, but on the contrary, your life can be equally in deep s**t as well, if there is absolutely no or minimal compatibility between the two.

On the brighter side, there is the other option - "Love Marriages". This assuming, I do get lucky and meet someone and we really hit it off and one fine day we do decide to get married! The initial hurdle will be to convince my parents to accept her as the bride, amidst ego tussles, conflicting views and what not! Assuming I do get married after convincing (read forcing) my folks, then when marital trouble crops up later, I am on my own and have to accept all blame for the state my marriage is. I would get comfort and support from my family, but not-so-willingly!

That said, do you think "Arranged marriages" still would work these days? Considering the views of today's youth and heavy western influence in the society? Or are they are set to perish and only "Love marriages" would prevail here on?

Thoughts and comments welcome!